Monday, April 30, 2007
Oh well. We shall say a prayer for him and hope for the best. I am sure he will be fine.
Sunday, April 29, 2007
She was up this morning too early for my taste. We aren't able to go anywhere until she is fever free for 24 hours. I suppose we will go to the parents again since they have HGTV and other favorite shows. Plus she will be very well entertained.
Saturday, April 28, 2007
July 25, 2005,
Nanning, Guangxi Autonomous Region, PRC
Right after gotcha moment but before realization hit.
April 28, 2007 in her living room not wanting to pose.
So weekend ruined. Best laid plans of mice and men yada yada.
Friday, April 27, 2007
I like it. I like the way she is holding Daisy and everything else required for a toddler. I look like that sometimes. I mean not like Meg but with toddler in my arms and bags and bags in hands, over shoulders etc. Sometimes I get offers of help esp. for doorways but not always, and that is okay too.
I took on roll of motherhood alone with a fine network but still alone. It is hard and rewarding. It is edifying and defining. It is moving and it moves me.
I like what Meg has to say about her adoption because it applies to most adoptions esp. mine: “I am convinced, completely convinced that there was nothing random about the adoption,” Meg, 45, tells Redbook in its May issue. “She is the daughter I should have.”
Oh and I haven't many pics of me and the girl because I am also the family photographer/document person or familial tormentor, whatever. So when I grow old and have Alzheimer's like my grandmother, I will still know I visited places because I was the one taking the pics. I will know I was in the family because I took the family pics. I was there DAMNIT.
Oh yes she did.
She thinks I think!!! Oh I want to thank the academy and my mom and dad and oh you know that other list of people who shall remain nameless.
Actually, I am honored. I really didn't think I could hit a cord with anyone. I am glad I have. There are a number of blogs that hit a cord with me. Sadly I am limited to nominate only 5.
Being given a chance to tell the web world who I enjoy reading because that blog makes me think is an honor too. Of course I don't think I can list the same people again but if I could I would duplicate so many other blogs I have seen nominated. But here is my list of 5 blogs (in no particular order) that make me think:
1.) Noodle and the Goose This blog writer and her family are moving to Indonesia. From what I gather it is for missions. I am very impressed with them to up and move to another country and culture with two small kiddos.
2.) Waiting for Sophie In her blog, Shana shows how to exude grace and forgiveness in the face of very difficult adoption situations, waiting for their son and the loss of one daughter. I don't think I would be as kind as they are in light of how their adoption events have played out. And I love the "Cooking with Sophie Lu" episodes. Sophie is very photogenic and has wonderful facial expressions.
3. Cherry Blossum Baby Christi is a single mom and brought her little munchkin home November 2006. She has blogged about the struggles of being a single parent, like when her keys were accidentally knocked out of her hand and down the drain in the street. She has blogged about her human failures as a mom which indicates her successes at overcoming and moving on. She totally is in love with her girl and seeing her pictures I can see why.
4. Mortimer's Mom Wonderful documentation from a mom of second adoption and the issues with bonding when newest daughter prefers dad. If you are looking into IA be sure to understand all that could happen during the adoption. I totally got rejection from Glenys like this mom received from her daughter -BeachBall. The difference was Glenys came home with me, and Grandad, the object of her affection, didn't. So Glenys was forced to bond to me.
5. Emma-bug A great and funny blog to read. I so enjoy the antics of "brutus the wee" and her mom, Stephanie. Again, reality of IA and the continuation of dealing with outside comments on your family.
For those nominated if you choose to take up the mission here it is.
Thursday, April 26, 2007
The drawn pic is what the foster mom hoped for Glenys. See I am Chinese and single and Glenys is a little girl with hair not a bald baby. So I am single though not Chinese. We don't have a scooter but Glenys does have a 4-wheeler. We do have a house and the sun shines a lot really and metaphorically. We don't have any bonsai trees but I do love plants. Boy this FM had it right.
Notice the "USA" in the scooter.
Last night when Glenys was having her private moment that I am now blasting on the net, Simon, decided to join her. Simon was extremely needy last night and even got in Glenys' lap with all 4 feet at one point.
updated 4/2014: pictures have disappeared from the blog for unknown reasons.
Wednesday, April 25, 2007
Okay, so I can't go back into the city until Friday when G is again spending the night with the grandparents.
In the meantime, I arranged to meet two of my girlfriends for dinner. We actually closed the restaurant down and closed the coffee shop down after that. We had good food, good conversation and good company. I guess that is what singles without kids do now, huh?
Tuesday, April 24, 2007
Breakfast at the grandparents house.
Mommy, aka. packmule, at the zoo.
The exhibit of confiscated illegal poacher prizes.
(Riki Tiki Tavi)
And Grammy posing for Glenys (got to get in the view finder, if only she knew)
This is Glenys' province. Wuzhou is in Guangxi Prov. Scary to think that only 3 years earlier this could have happened to Glenys. I imagine their are family planning forays going on periodically that don't hit the news. Guangxi is supposedly autonomous rule at least in some aspects but in a communist country how much is truly autonomous? Maybe the nature of gov't in Guangxi allowed the story to get out of China in the first place. I dunno, maybe.
Monday, April 23, 2007
I would like to imagine her birth family celebrating at her birth. I can't really because I don't know. I would like to think they truly attempted to find ways/money to keep her. I can't because they didn't keep her. I can say she was with someone for almost one month before being abandoned. I just wish I knew for sure it was with her birth family.
Her teacher told me Friday that Glenys talks about being adopted from China. She talks about her mommy having to fly a long way to get her. I am so glad. We talk about adoption and her being Chinese. I love the fact that she is Chinese and American by adoption. I love the fact that she looks Chinese and pretends to speak Chinese. It gives me hope that she will grow up and appreciate her first culture. At least she may want to learn it even if she will not completely understand it.
I will never be able to give her Chinese culture or heritage but I can teach her about the country from books and movies and only from my western point of view. I saved all of the books I read about China and Chinese adoption for her to read when she is much older. Maybe it will give her an understanding of how she came to be an American. When she is older we will study Chinese again and hopefully travel there.
A friend of mine asked if I was open with her about adoption. I told her that someone is going to talk about her being adopted and being from China. That someone may be very negative. So if someone is going to do it, then it better be me, and it better be in the most positive, affirming way possible.
Last night I felt most lucky that this baby's mom made a most difficult choice 3 years ago and I was chosen to adopt her. I hope for all the waiting moms and dads to experience this lucky feeling and I hope it comes very soon.
Sunday, April 22, 2007
Saturday, April 21, 2007
Bottom: Glenys' teacher gave her the Love A lot care bear that is as big as her. Yippee, one more thing pushing me out of my bed.
Friday, April 20, 2007
Anyway, Glenys received her first bday gift. And the gift giver didn't leave the other girls out. They all got tiaras (sp?). Glenys' head is too big to wear hers though. Plus Glenys receive the bonus of toe polish(no we don't have fingernail polish yet) of blue and pink and "lickets", three colors of lip gloss that can be worn like a watch to keep it with you and stay lickets fresh all day.
So last night after bed, Glenys had me paint her toes blue and had me paint my toes pink. Then we both had to wear sandals to shoe off the toe polish. Today is her school birthday party. Cupcakes, Juice, and balloons for everyone, YEA!!!
Tomorrow is another day of cupcakes with our Chinese sisters and a few others at the zoo. We are having a zoo day not a birthday party but a zoo day with our friends. Next year I will check on the whole birthday party at the zoo thing.
Sunday is the official 3 year old day and we are having lunch with the parents when all the gifts are bestowed. I may decide to give her my bday gift tomorrow for the zoo. She will want to take her own pics.
So let the festivities begin!!!!
Glenys' playdoh boot.
Glenys' painted buddah.
Glenys painting her hand for a hand "fwrint".
The aftermath of a painting session.
To see all entries go to Donna's Blog at http://2happy.typepad.com/double_happiness/2007/04/toddler_art.html
Thursday, April 19, 2007
My dad has always fixed breakfast in the morning since my parents were married. The only exceptions have been during times of travel when others did it and when I have had surgery. When I have been forced not to eat breakfast, my dad would do the same for me and not eat right along with me. So I guess that day I will sacrifice breakfast for him in unity with his impending surgery. Our breakfasts have a long history. During high school, I ate breakfast with my dad every day for 4 years. So call it a connection between a dad and his daughter.
A good night's sleep, talking with other BTDTs and some reassuring e-mails (thanks blogging-nurse friends); I feel better about my dad and the fact that he will be okay at least for this. There is no guarantee obviously for anyone so I will go with what I know.
I must say though the week just gets worse though. Yesterday I found out that two of the children in Glenys' class are moving out of state. These are the only girls approved by me, Mom, to be her best friends forever. Now they are moving. Why couldn't the trouble making girls moving, hmmmm? Other than kidnapping the girls I can't do anything to stop them. Unbelievable, don't they know they can't move for Glenys' sake? Don't these mom's think of anyone other than themselves? I wonder if they would commute.
OOOOOHHHHH MY, life is certainly getting interesting.
Wednesday, April 18, 2007
|You Should Paint Your Room Blue|
Peaceful and soothing, blue rooms have been known to reduce blood pressure.
Your blue room will encourage deep rest and great sleep.
A blue room is the perfect oasis for a stressful life.
My room is painted blue and this is the third blue bedroom I have had in my lifetime. The first being when I was 13.
My dad has been diagnosed with prostate cancer. Lots of men are, especially in the later years. So then why am I worried. My dad is a very private person and doesn't show weakness, especially if he can't fix the problem. His doctor said the severity of his cancer on a scale* of 1 to 10 is a 6, somewhere in the middle. His doctor wants to do surgery but has given other options. He obviously has no guarantees, none of us really do.
Last night at supper, I was trying to cage the seriousness of this and I asked him, "So then you will be here for Glenys' 21st birthday to take her to the zoo and ride the merry-go-round." (family joke) Like he said, "That was never a guarantee." But there never was a threat before, just the threat of old age.
In reality I know prostate cancer isn't really anything that can't be cured, right? My mom doesn't want him to have surgery because of the months of recovery and the necessity of having a catheter and wearing diapers. I think that is the only reason she doesn't. Seeing my father required to wear diapers makes him more vulnerable than I have ever seen him. Maybe that is what my morning tears are about. My dad isn't invincible and in my 30+ years I have failed to realize that. I think I could handle a diagnosis of cancer if it was me or even my mom but not my dad.
We don't know what the future holds but we know who holds the future. He is a believer in Jesus as in his eternal life is secure. This world holds us in despair and hopelessness without Christ. Death was never meant to be actually but sin brought death. Not any one person's specific sin just the "I'll do things my own way" sin of human nature the falling short of God's perfection.
Lots of things can happen with any of the options. I am just not ready to have to deal with this because I can't look into the future without my parents. I want them to get old old. I want them to see Glenys grow up. Hell, I want them to see me grow up. I don't want to explain death of her only grandparents to Glenys. Call me selfish or unrealistic that is fine. I just wish we didn't have to deal with this!!
*Updated to add his Gleeson (sp?) score is 6 and apparently jumped quickly from 3.5 to 6, thus the urgency in having surgery.
Tuesday, April 17, 2007
|You Should Spend Your Summer in the Mountains|
You're quiet, introspective, and a great thinker.
You need a summer vacation that gets you away from the crowds and the heat.
So retreat to the mountains, where you can clear your head.
How true how true!!
Monday, April 16, 2007
Then this is Glenys this morning brushing her teeth for school. She picked the t-shirt and shoes. Why, yes, she is wearing one pink one and one blue one. She also has salmon colored socks on that match the flowers in her pants. I don't normally fight her on dress unless it is cold outside. Why make us all miserable with dressing in the morning? Just makes for a bad beginning of the day.
I look up in time to see the rear of the horse literally an inch or so from me. The slow motion effect of that with the accompanying realization that we were about to be trampled and my totally inability at that moment to protect us is very difficult to comprehend or explain. As the rider attempted to get the horse under control I turned around in time to see the horse literally fling the rider through the air as she hung on to the reigns. I imagine the rider was shaken up too. My single adoptive mom friend actually cried. I just went pale and thankfully, Glenys didn't sense or at least I don't think she did the seriousness of the situation. I told her about it and I was nauseated. Glenys still asks about the horsey and where is the horsey and did that mommy take that horsey home?
I don't much care for horses anyway. I like watching them from afar. So one more thing I will put the fear of horses in Glenys as I don't wish her to be a rider anyway!!
Why can't the durn cameras just be a neutral color like yellow or green or blue or red? Why pink? Glenys saw a blue one and said, "that is a boy's camera." She is only about to be 3 and already she has assigned color to gender.
I am selling the second one for which I paid over $10 less than the purchase now one for the price of $50 and that includes the shipping. That will recoup my losses if anyone is interested. I did e-mail the seller and tried to explain why I didn't need the pink one. I asked and begged via e-mail for him to send me a blue one. We will see if I receive two pink cameras or one pink and one blue. If I get two pinks, my offer stands. If I get a blue and pink, my nephew will get a camera for his birthday from his very cool aunt and grandparents (together).
Saturday, April 14, 2007
I will in a later post explain how we were almost run over by a spooked horse but Glenys is crying now. Time for the awaited meltdown.
Friday, April 13, 2007
In China I paid full price for everything because a) it was still not a lot compared to the US of A and b) I hate bidding wars. So one vendor came down from his own price when we didn't bid back. I guess he felt sorry for us. There was nothing I bought (except the stroller at the WS) that I paid too much for. And I did that on the next to last day because one of the side shops said everyone was out of strollers. I guess they were out and didn't want me to go to another expecting me to come back. I will say I love the stroller and so does Glenys especially for zoo days.
See this is one reason I don't gamble or do drugs or shop lift. I can't stand the rush people get from those actions. It is not fun for me!!!!
Thursday, April 12, 2007
Glenys is now tall enough with the help of a stool to turn the water on and off in her bathroom. The cabinets are waist high to me, much taller than the standard bathroom sink cabinets so this is a pretty big accomplishment. Basically this tells me that although she can wear 18 month in the waist, 3T will be the order for the length. I am going to have a great time buying clothes for the next few years!!
I am currently bidding on a Fisher Price digital camera for Glenys on E*BAY. Wish me luck. I need it and am totally nervous. I am bidding on two of them and am the high bidder so far. If I get them both I will send one to my nephew in CA for his birthday in August. I am just that wonderful of an aunt. Those suckers are expensive. Unless the sellers purchased them at a significant discount they will not make their money back from what I am seeing on e*bay.
On other family news, finally, after a three year separation a divorce agreement was reached and has been granted in the marriage dissolution between my sister and her alcoholic FBI husband. Apparently, if the kids choose, they don't have to have anything to do with him until they are 18. She can refinance and keep the house and gets all of the current equity in said house. He must pay alimony and child support. And it is all bittersweet and totally devastating to the kids. He now is free to marry his girlfriend of 2 1/2 years to be a step dad to her two kids. What a happy little family they will be. He also brought this on all "on he own self" (in the words of my toddler). I am thrilled for her, sad for the kids and totally disappointed in him and the whole FBI agency. (I have other examples of agents to give me pause for trusting any of them.)
It is nice to have but for $80 I am not so sure. I received a photo copy of the finding ad in China and could have had it translated there. I wrongly assumed he had connections or the ability to ask the newspaper archives for the actual copy of the photo which would have been in color. I will say the actual ad is very tiny in the bottom corner of the inside front cover of the paper, Guangxi Daily.
So warning if you plan on getting this, the photo MAY only be a photo of the actual printed ad. Honestly, having the paper is nice as is having the translation. The other, not so much.
Wednesday, April 11, 2007
Tuesday, April 10, 2007
Monday, April 09, 2007
G loves candy. Here she is eating her tootsie rolls from her egg hunt. She will eat candy as long as it is not hard candy. She had an accidental choking experience on a hard candy that scared me and her. She is leery of the hard stuff now.
G has always had a mechanism in place to handle stressful or loud situations. She goes to sleep. When we met in China, I made her spend an afternoon with me without grandad and grammie. All we did was sleep. She would wake up and see me then lay her head down and sleep. I know she thought I would be gone when she opened her eyes so she just kept shutting them to see.
She also did that the last baseball game of the year last year when the fireworks were going off. When she did that Sunday I had to think about why she was asleep, it occurred to me again that loud noises make her sleep. She just becomes extremely overwhelmed and shuts down. My mom's church is sometimes very loud and although the choir and band tries, sometimes there is a discordant sound coming in place of true music. So this shut G down Sunday morning.
I try to keep her pretty even keeled and she doesn't do this at my church but for as large as our church is the music is not loud or overbearing. Just one more reason to make the trek every Sunday into town to go to our beloved church.
Sunday, April 08, 2007
We went to church with my parents for Easter. Glenys wore her new dress and shoes. She promptly fell asleep on Grandad and slept through the service. Then we all went to eat at a steakhouse and she ate salad and hamburger and fries. Then we went and hunted eggs at Grammie and Grandad's house. She had her Grammie carry her basket for her. It was cold so we dressed rather warmly. Then we sat outside on the patio while she rode her wheeler. We had coffee and finished the peanuts from the steakhouse. Then we all took a nap. It was a very nice Sunday afternoon.
Friday, April 06, 2007
Thursday, April 05, 2007
Eating the cookies, cupcake and candies, now that truly makes a party.
Wednesday, April 04, 2007
Tuesday, April 03, 2007
We are off work for Good Friday. I think I will renew the zoo membership and take Glenys there. It is worth it even if I have to do so on credit which is how I am doing a lot of things right now. Enjoy now, pay later. Apparently this is my new life motto.
Glenys woke up crying today. She fought her demons all night again. The Easter Story is difficult for toddlers. Actually not the whole thing but when Jesus dies part. Glenys asked me if God did it. She always wants to know who "do it". So I told her that yes in a sense God did do it. Then she asked where Jesus lives and I told her heaven. Then she said, "I want to go see Him." I said that we would when we died. She is not ready to die though. I told her that it would be a long time from now and that she would be older than Grammie and Grandad. Needless to say I think that conversation lent itself to giving her not so pleasant dreams.
Sunday afternoon she woke herself up singing the alphabet song. She was on letter "g" when she woke up. She finished the song then looked at me to see if I was awake. I pretended not to be but it didn't work. Glenys is funny when she is sleeping. She asks questions and claims things. I can answer her and if it is the wrong answer she cries. If I give her the right answer she goes back to sound sleeping. She never wakes up fully anytime during the exchange and doesn't remember a thing in the morning.
This morning when I dropped her off at school she told me she would color me a pretty picture. Last night we spent the evening after supper, coloring. She picked the crayons and gave me the one she wanted me to have. I got the broken ones and the shorter ones than what she had. Then she would want to "switch-fwop" and take my color or page. Her coloring is interesting. She doesn't stay in the lines but she does stay together. I will have to post a photo of her work. She also colors vibrant colors. I color lightly and she get the full color out of her crayons. So I can't wait to pick her up and see what she colored for me.
Have I said lately how much fun she is. Well, she is. She was quite grumpy before bed though. She was so tired. So was/am I. Grammie and Grandad are coming home tonight. Hopefully they will be rested enough to see her tomorrow night. Otherwise it will be Friday or Saturday. I don't think any of them could stand that!!