I came up with a brilliant plan to help G fall asleep on time without tears, or so I thought. I explained my Brilliant Plan, hereafter known as BP, to her like this,
"G, see this calendar? You can earn a surprise by going to sleep on time without tears and getting up in the morning also without tears for 5 days in a row. I will put a smiley face on the day before we leave if you did both of those things. if you get 5 smiley faces in a row then I will let you pick any surprise out you want. Do you want to try that?"
G: "any surfrize?"
Me: "yes, any."
This was at 8pm. At 8:45 pm when the lights went off, G decided she didn't want to go to bed and told me so. I warned her about losing the smiley face which set off a 20 minute cry fest begging to have the smiley face. So guess what I drew the frowning face right then. She lost on day one. I told her we would try again. I even asked her how she earned the smiley face. Through tears she was able to tell me "be good."
I said, "What is being good?"
She said, "Go to sweep, stay still, and no tears." All said through tears. She would not let it go.
So lets recap: in 20 minutes my blood pressure shot through the roof, I was at my worst, yelling at her and about her, and she got a spanking and a time out. WTF, why did my BP not work on night one? Oh and she fell asleep after 9:30pm.
Well, tonight we will try again, I reinforced it this morning. But tonight I won't let the tears make me so mad at her or me, dang it. I am determined to win. Once this battle is conquered I will try the sleeping in the own bed battle. The thing is I don't mind if she sleeps with me as long as she sleeps. I do mind if she wiggles and squirms, tosses and turns, hits and talks, and won't go to sleep.
I did make the mistake of telling her that if I got fired for not being on time because of not being able to go to bed on time then I would never be able to take her to the beach. That ended up adding to the hysterics and tears. I won't make that mistake again either.