Sunday, November 09, 2008

Now About the Adoption Conference

It was wonderful. Debbie Riley, author of Beneath the Mask: Understanding Adopted Teens, and David Cross, Professor at TCU, were the key note speakers. Debbie offered to sign books so being the autograph sucker that I am I bought it.

Debbie spoke on her book and pointed out that adopted teens are over represented in mental health. She gave some good reasons for this. Two reasons are that adopted parents are pros at the social work thing having homestudies and such so we aren't strangers at all. Second is that adoptive parents are waiting for the other shoe to drop so to speak. I mean after all we have been told that adoptees are bad or will grow up to be bad seeds and it is shown in movies, TVs and news media. When a person does something bad one of the first things reported is if the kid is adopted.

She makes sense and I am looking forward to reading this book. Also, she said to talk about your child being adopted. Throw the pepples out there that will cause a ripple effect to aid in more conversations. If you aren't talking about it now then start. Don't wait because more than likely you child will not ask you due to their feelings of loyalty to you. And if you do talk about it don't get all weepy and stressed because your child will want to protect you and not talk about it.

Dr. David Cross spoke on attachment. He used the analogy and achronim of Tapestry to discuss attachment. It is all about relationship. He was really good too but G is sitting in my lap and I can't type anymore. So I am off for a bit.

PS as for my own presentation, I didn't make a fool of myself and I think it went pretty well. We had more state social workers than any other group but we did have 3-4 adoptive parents and 4 men.

6 comments:

Christy said...

So cool-- so i take it you did a presentation?? How cool. I would love to hear you talk about it. Im sure you were impressive!!!

Christy :)

laurel said...

That is great. I appreciate the info you shared. That is great your part went well!

Heather said...

Hurrah!
I know you were working on your presentation a while back, but lost track of when you'd be presenting.
Glad your survived and come out with a few bits of wisdom to share
Heather BT

Super Mommy said...

Sounds interesting! Glad to hear your presentation went well - gotta hand it to ya - don't think I'd do it (presentations give me hives!).

Vivian M said...

I knew you would do great! Glad it was informative and you walked away with some new information.

Donna said...

Congrats on your presentation. I'd like to hear more about the attachment presentation, and any other tidbits your picked up at the conference if you're willing to write another post.