Sunday, June 29, 2008

Fun In The Park

We have had a relaxing weekend. Friday night G spent with my parents. Then I headed out there for breakfast and spent the day. Today was church then nap for me while G watched movies. Then to the "blue swides."


Yesterday for breakfast, my mom cooked which is totally unusual for breakfast. For all of my parents marriage my dad has always cooked breakfast. G was a bit perplexed and def. recognized that the scrambled eggs did not "wook wike grandaddy's aiggs." 

I am not sure that G has ever had her grammie cook breakfast but maybe one other time she doesn't remember.

Now she is playing noggin.com as I am finishing the book Infidel. This is a must read for every person who thinks Islam is a religion of peace.


Friday, June 27, 2008

What House Are You?

I would agree with this simple assessment of myself, especially the traveler comment. I am always on the look out for somewhere to go.




What the House Test Says About You



You are happy with who you are, and you don't have an inflated sense of self importance. You do your own thing quietly. You don't take up a lot of space.



You aren't against being community oriented, but it's not really your thing. You tend to prefer to focus on your family and not the neighborhood around you.



You are a calm, contemplative, and smart person. You take ideas very seriously.



You look attractive, but mostly because your rely on your natural good looks to get by.



You are moved by what's exotic and unique. You often have the mentality of a traveler, even when you're not traveling.

Summer Pals




Long Overdue Post. A week ago Thursday, G received her first "summer pals" gift from none other than a travel buddy whom we have not yet met.

Olivia's parents not only used the same agency but received referral the same time and traveled the same time. But the group was 51 families, all different provinces, so we actually never met.


Anywho, G loved the ladybug game she received and the stickers. She used the stickers to decorate cards for my aunt in CA who has a mass on her kidney and is very ill. G kept saying, "How did she do dis stuff? How did she do all dis?"




video video

Another Contest

current and too long. 30 something year old women really shouldn't wear hair like this.
Only slightly better but really. Always worn long.
Frizzy out of the hat.

and last, short tired hair.

Not sure why this person is offering $140 for this hair contest but I am in desparate need for the fixin'. And this person will tell me the style I need. So I am entering the "Let the Moosh Whoorl Your Hair" contest and wanted to let you know if you have a blog you too can enter it. Look at me getting all contest happy.



So these pics have recently been posted as Retro Friday but I am also using the for the bad hair experiences in my past.


If I Won $10,000 For a Make Over


What would I change? I am entering a Makeover contest so let me tell you what I would possibly change if given the opportunity. This is my entery copied from the site with the most recent pic taken of me.


Well, first lets talk genetics. Although I inherited youthful looking genes from my mom; I inherited acne prone skin from my dad. I received his wonderfully deep set blue eyes, but my mother's droopy lids. I inherited my dad's mother's looks, and no offense to my grandmother (God rest her soul) but she was not attractive as she aged, and I look like her. I have a very small forehead that makes my deep set eyes look much deeper than they are.


Now let's talk a bit of history and outside influences. In 1990 I went through a windshield that almost caused the loss of my eyelid, so I have scarring that although it is not as visible (I wear glasses to hide it) I am missing part of my eyebrow, and I have funky eyelashes due to the wreck. I also have scarring on my forehead from the windshield. Let me say it wasn't pleasant then, and for a few years I battled depression over the altered looks.


So I would have the same droopy eye lid surgery my aunt had on her eyelids before I get to a point where I can't see. It will get that bad eventually. I would have my acne prone skin treated to permanently remove all causes of the acne and the scarring treated. I would finish the reconstructive work on my eye to make it not even noticeable to me. I would do something about the deep set eyes and small forehead if I could.


I wouldn't want to change the essence of what I look like, but I would like to fix things before they get too bad. Right now I either look like I am scowling or overly concentrating, or I look sleepy all the time (which that is not too far from the truth).


I would just change the practical things about me that will cause problems as I get older. I can already feel the heaviness of my eyelids so I am not going to be too far behind my aunt with surgery. I mean I would like to continue to see without having to hold my head so far up that it affects my neck. It feels like I am always looking up and out from under my eyelids even when looking straight.

If you would like to enter the contest, go here. You must be 35 or older and female.




Thursday, June 26, 2008

One More Post For The Day

G's swim teachers asked my mom if she were taking gymnastics because they said she is a natural. They said she can point her toes appropriately etc. I just love hearing good things about my girl.

But today in swim class she didn't do so well. One of her teachers asked her if she wanted to put her face in the water and she said, "no." Then my mom asked her why she didn't put her face in the water and she said, "Well, Ms. L asked me if I wanted to put my face in the water and I say, 'no.'"

I said, "Yeah just like when I ask her if she wants to take gymnastics or dance and she tells me, 'No, maybe when I'm 10 or 19, Okay, Mom?'" I guess the trick is just taking her to the class and telling her what to do as opposed to asking her questions about it. If you give her an opinion it will be opposite of what you want to hear. Of course she also said she wasn't going to take swim lessons but this morning she was so excited because today was swim day!!

Trying To Get A Business Up and Running?

The blog world is an interesting place and many businesses have taken notice. I have seen many adoptive parents raising money for there adoption. I have seen people strike out on their own to be their own boss, which is something I would love to do and I wish them well. If you are one of those lucky folks who have started your own business and need a way to generate more customers to your business check out pay per click marketing.

This site offers a couple of options depending on your own marketing budget. This site researches keywords, will analyze your website, will create the ad copy, purchase the keywords and report back on the ad campaign. If you have a great service or product you have to get the customers to you and sometimes word of mouth is just too slow. Think how much faster your business could grow with this campaign.

Garner the power of the Internet and Google searches through pay per click marketing. This company is a trusted site and prime site for Google ads. Show up on all of your friends blogs, if they use the ads from Blogger. Yours could even be the first business to pop up from a Google or Yahoo search. Go ahead, life is too short to miss a chance to be your own boss. You can only do that if your business is successful, and you must advertise for success.


I Agree Totally

"Anybody in the country who cares about children should be outraged that we have a Supreme Court that would issue a decision like this," said Alabama Attorney General Troy King, a Republican. The justices, he said, are "creating a situation where the country is a less safe place to grow up."

The supreme court totally got this wrong! The death penalty is a deterrent to crime. Just because the child isn't killed in the perpetration of the crime doesn't mean the criminal should be free to harm again. Recidivism rates for sexual predators is extremely high. There is no cure for these types of criminals. They will strike again.


Wednesday, June 25, 2008

Look Y'all

My ex-coworker and friend started a blog. Here
it is. Go give her a hello. She and I became friends over adoption, me international and her domestic. This is the other presenter in the November conference.

Wordless Wednesday and other Ramblings










Now for Other Ramblings: G is a natural at swimming so says her teacher. She even enjoyed today's class and didn't cry or anything. My mom is paying for these classes and is even thinking about maybe getting her two more weeks and getting us a pool membership in town. G doesn't just need to take the lessons but she needs to practice for real the rest of the summer. But of course that would mean I would need a swimsuit and that is a scary scary thought!!

Tuesday, June 24, 2008

I Have a Guppy

First reports from swimming lesson is that she is ready to learn. She got her face in the water like the bravest girl. She admitted to crying a bit but word is there was a little boy crying so that triggered her. He will be asked to not return because apparently this is day two for him crying.

 Also, mom was able to pick her up from daycare, bring her a snack after swim lessons and take her back to daycare without tears!! G's motivation for just about anything is candy and she was duly rewarded after her lesson with a sucker. She will get another tomorrow. I hope by the end of summer I will have a full fledged swimmer on my hands!!

Another Reason to be Glad to Live in the US

BEIJING (Reuters) - Chinese authorities in the restive far western region of Xinjiang have demolished a mosque for refusing to put up signs in support of this August's Beijing Olympics, an exiled group said on Monday. The mosque was in Kalpin county near Aksu city in Xinjiang's rugged southwest, the World Uyghur Congress said.

The spokesman's office of the Xinjiang government said it had no immediate comment, while telephone calls to the county government went answered."China is forcing mosques in East Turkistan to publicize the Beijing Olympics to get the Uighur people to support the Games (but) this has been resisted by the Uighurs," World Uyghur Congress spokesman Dilxat Raxit said in an emailed statement.

Beijing says al Qaeda is working with militants in Xinjiang to use terror to establish an independent state called East Turkistan. Oil-rich Xinjiang is home to 8 million Turkic-speaking Uighurs, many of whom resent the growing economic and cultural influence of the Han Chinese.

Dilxat Raxit added that the mosque, which had been renovated in 1998, was accused of illegally renovating the structure, carrying out illegal religious activities and illegally storing copies of the Muslim holy book the Koran." All the Korans in the mosque have been seized by the government and dozens of people detained," he said. "

The detained Uighurs have been tortured." The Olympic torch relay passed through Xinjiang last week under tight security, with all but carefully vetted residents banned from watching on the streets and tight controls over foreign media covering the event.

(Reporting by Ben Blanchard; Editing by Nick Macfie)

I don't agree with the Muslim religion, but I think this is way above the right of a government and for the reason behind it, not supporting the olympics. That is just heavey handed. I appreciate the fact that, so far, our country allows freedom of religion, though in a lot of areas Christian freedom of religion and speech is being threatened.

Lesson Learned

Never, never order fast food before you are sure to have the cash to pay. G and I had to run out and buy her a swimsuit, towel, shoes and t-shirt (read bribe) because she starts swimming lessons today 2 weeks early. So due to the lateness of the hour I decided to take her out for dinner. We hit the Wendy's chain in our town and I ordered. I thought I had $20 on me. Well, I didn't and I was about 4 bucks short of the meal. No our meal wasn't $20 but that would have covered it and left coffee money for me for today.

Anywho, the manager, was so nice and gave me my food anyway and told me to come back to pay. Wasn't that nice. I was mortified that I would do something like that. How did I miscalculate the cash flow?!?!? She was so nice and I would like to write a positive comment about her but am afraid I would get her in trouble because I don't know if a manager can do that on trust.

In my defense I was a bit harried yesterday, rough work day, headache all day, trying to get home and get things done before today. G doesn't want to go to swim lessons that are paid for by my mom, "I alweady know how to swim," she says. So I bought her (from slim pickings I must say) two bathing suits, a t-shirt, new sandals, and a princess hooded towel all as a bribe. And I told her if she went all week without tears then I would take her to buy a toy to which she replied, "NO!" with arms crossed. Oh yea, that is my head strong girl. She is determined not to enjoy swim lessons and really has no idea what swim lessons are. All this on top of not sleeping well made me do the whole money miscalc.

Monday, June 23, 2008

On To Fun Things-Halloween Costumes

Always one to plan ahead I am already thinking Halloween is just around the corner you know. I mean right after July 4th, plans should start to dress your tot in the very best kids Halloween costumes to beat the whole neighborhood in the cuteness factor.

What better time than this election year to sport a great colonial style costume to remind us of the founding of this great nation. Can't you just see G in the colonial girl costume all pre-revolution and everything. Wouldn't that be great?

Maybe I can find us a matching or complimentary outfit like this with her being the cop and me the convict. I make a good convict in the form of highway speeder. She can give me tickets all night for walking too fast. We would carry the "Bad Boys" song from COPS.

With a few appropriate accessories she could be Po from Kung Fu Panda. I could be the wise sage turtle (forgot his name) or Angelina's Tigress or maybe his noodle lovin' dad, the goose.

Oh wait, I know Captain Hook, we really love the movie Peter Pan so she can go as Captain Hook and I can dress as a (modest) Tinkerbell more for the irony than anything, seeing how tink is so small and I am, well, not. She would make a good Captain Hook. Or I could even be the crocodile that follows him around to eat the rest of him.

I came up with a doozy one year for my nephew. Since Halloween falls on the beginning of the protestant reformation, I thought he could dress like Martin Luther and nail the 99 thesis on the walls or doors of houses. My sister being Southern Baptist didn't get it so she nixed the idea. Too bad too because I think it would have struck a chord at the church party.

When I was growing up we were too poor to get new costumes, and we had to wear the costumes we had from school or church plays. I happened to have played a clown in several class plays so I mostly dressed as a clown or as an angel from the church angel choir of the nativity play. I hate clowns too and I am/was no angel. But I know for at least 4 years I was a clown. My brothers were shepherds or wise men or army men. I don't think my sister ever dressed up that I remember.

I remember one year there was a haunted house nearby and my mom foolishly allowed all of my begging to get the best of her, and she let me go in with my siblings. Well, I couldn't get out of there fast enough, and when I saw the truck with my parents in there I jumped not touching the ground, seat or anything until I was in between them. I had nightmares for years after that. They laughed at me but I learned a lesson that sometimes it is best to not get everything you beg for, heh.

I was trick or treating in the years that it was safe to accept home made goodies. My grandmother used to make popcorn balls to give away. LOVED THEM. There are really good memories of the popcorn balls and helping make them. My job was to lick the bowl of the caramel. I mean it was a long time ago. I think I may have rolled a few or made a few but very few because I was all about the tasting of them. You know the ole one for you and three for me routine?

Maybe that can be something G and I make just for fun. She would enjoy playing in gooey popcorn.

Last year I dressed G in a homemade costume (birthday cake) and she did okay with it. She isn't really one to dress up much, sadly. The most fun she had was helping make the costume, and I suppose that is what is so important, the bonding time with mom and daughter. She was all about the glue and tape!!

G's Imagination

G has a wild imagination. She told me the other evening that Kavin stuck his finger in her ear which made the swimmer's ear stuff burn when I used it on her. I told her to stop digging in her ear or she would make it soar when I had to put the alcohol/water mix in after bath. She said she didn't put her finger in her ear. I asked her who did and she said, "Kavin." I said, "Kavin at school?" She said, "Yep."

So I tried to reason with her, nope not happening, then I said, "So you are telling me you stood there and let Kavin stick his finger down your ear?" She said, "Well, he sticked it to my belly, yike dis" (indicating that he stuck his finger all the way down her ear to her belly).

Now it was a bit comical but she also was not backing down on the whole Kavin sticking his finger in her ear. I told her that Kavin's fingers aren't long enough and that she shouldn't stand there and let someone poke her in her ear. Needless to say she missed the whole point of not sticking her finger in her ear with that exercise in imagination.

Direct copy of response for banning singles

For the unbelievers of the reason that CCAA stopped single adoption see the italics bold section which is the direct response from the CCAA. The timing of the back log might have been the catalyst but singles were banned due to having no ability to monitor homosexual adoptions and US agencies not helping. Am I mad, no but very sad. China is a sovereign nation to allow its orphans to be adopted by whomever and for whatever reasons it wishes. Do I agree no, not necessarily. But I am a rule follower and appreciate others to do the same. That is all I am saying.

"Dear FCC Members:
The Chinese Center for Adoption Affairs has responded to the open letter sent from the FCC Chapters of Greater New York, New England,Northern California and Southern California and subsequently co-signed by several other FCC chapters representing over one thousand additional FCC members.We are extremely pleased to have received any response at all. When we wrote the letter, we hoped to receive an official response but did not necessarily expect to areceive one. Frequently a Chinese government agency would not issue such a response except to similar-level government agency. The fact that the government felt our letter warranted a response at all appears to be an indication of the respect and gratitude the CCAA holds for our community.

Shanti Fry FCC New EnglandMargie Berman FCC Greater New York Peggy Scott FCC Northern CaliforniaJeri Okamoto FloydFCC Southern CaliforniaFIRST TRANSLATION OF LETTER

FROM CHINA CENTER OF ADOPTION AFFAIRS
Dear Shanti Fry,
Your letter was forwarded to us. First, I would like to thank you for giving your attention to China's international adoption affairs.We are grateful for the assistance and support you have given to the adoption families and adopted children. It's the universal truth that parents are the fundamental unit of a society. They play a vital role in a child's growth and character development. According to "Hague Convention", in order for children to develop their character to their full potential, they should be raised in a family environment that nurtures of happiness, love and with an emphasis on mutual respect for one another. International adoption aims to help those orphans who have lost their parents or family to establish a family that could ensure they have all the rights they are entitled to. Therefore, China Center of Adoption Affairs has been abiding by the principle of "ensuring children's best benefits" in international adoption since the beginning. The mission of our center is "all for the children". Through endless efforts and generations and generations of devotion can we assist ten thousands of orphans to find homes that could provide them with an environment that is contusive [sic] to establishing emotional stability within the family unit. During the past 10 years, China Center of Adoption Affairs has received the consent, support and collaboration of American government, adoption associations, and large number of adoption families.

China Center of Adoption Affairs has gained a reputation of having comprehensive policies, structured regulations, and transparency in the adoption process. It has attracted large amount of international adoption applicants, which resulted the increase of number of applications to China Center of Adoption Affairs. At the same time,as the Chinese society progressed and people become more aware of the issue, plus the rising of domestic adoption, the number of children for international adoption has decreased, which can no longer meet the demand of international adoption. Under the circumstance, in order to ensure adopted children's best interest,we also have to select the most suitable adoption family for these children in all areas. This was realized by the "Hague Convention"principle.

Your letter has mentioned the issue of single parent adopting children in China. We would like to express our respect and understanding toward their personal choices. Meanwhile, we believe 1) it is difficult to exclude homosexual single parent to apply for adoption. The law of Chinese government doesn't empower the rights of homosexuals. In addition, due to Chinese traditional culture, it makes most Chinese families harder to accept this social phenomenon. Because of the culture differences, social welfare organizations who act as orphans' guardians are not willing to send children to homosexual families.

2) Due to the absence of mother or father in a single parent family, it can not function completely; it is not beneficial to children's psychological development. Countries around the world have recognized this issue as well. 3) If any accident were to happen to the parent of a single parent family, it is likely that the adopted children would loose the family again.Besides, the main purpose of adoption is to find a family for those children and not to find a child for the family. Thus, under the circumstances that international adoption can no longer satisfy the demand, we should consider married couple as priority to ensure our adopted children's mind and spirit can be developed in a proper family oriented environment.Of course, we must consider adopted families' devotion and the desire of having a child as we sincerely provide most sufficient and quality service. Offering priority adoption process is one of the means to make sure the benefit of adopting families. As of now, the wait for international adoption applicants has been postponed to 17-18 months. It's expected that the waiting period would be longer,which is not what everyone hope to see. Other foreign adoption organization suggested that we should categorize adoption families according to their different situations. As responsible as we are to adopted families and organizations, we have taken the advice.Adoption families that have as better qualifications will be placed under priority adoption process,Effective May 1, 2007. By doing so, it shortens the waiting period and eases the anxiety. For adoption organizations, they could make adjustments according to the actual situation and make further arrangement on the amount of international adoption applications.Therefore, to select most qualified adoption families is our job.We all needs to be more versatile and make adjustments when we perform any types of work based on its demand and current situation.It's the same for international adoption process. In order to accommodate the large number of applicants with limited number of available orphans, applying priority adoption process is a practical solution China Center of Adoption Affairs had adopted from international adoption. The policy of China's international adoption does not change. As the work progresses and the actual situation changes, it is possible there might be other adjustments on priority adoption process.Hopefully you have a clear understanding of how China Center of Adoption Affairs applies the priority adoption process. Other American families who are preparing for adoption in China can know about this matter through your organization. Should you have any question for China Center of Adoption Affairs and international adoption, please contact us. Let's work together to maintain the order of international adoption and the relationship we have built so earnestly between China and America. Together we protect the interests of adopted child and the adopted families.

Thank you again for your understanding and support for international adoption."

Conversations With G

Last night G was petting Clementine on the head and said, "Mama, how yong is Tementine's hair?"

I said, "Well, baby, it is as long as it is, and it is all fur. It is all the same length and won't grow any longer."

She said, "No dis her hair (referring to her head) and dis her soft (referring to her back)."


Sunday, June 22, 2008

In Response to Some Comments

Homosexuality was classified as deviant and listed in mental disorders in the DSM within the last 30 years? So it is only a matter of time for the other deviant sexual behaviors to change.

The only reason it was changed because of wealthy homosexuals lobbying the psychiatric association to change it. NAMBLA is trying to change laws all over the place to change the age of sexual consent with children. Just because homosexuality has been made palatable in our generation does not mean that it is not a deviant behavior. Even if it is genetic like, oh say alcoholism, a person can struggle with it but can change. It is a behavior defining a group of people.

If women would stop giving the milk away without the purchase of the cow more men may decide to remain faithfully married and might get married. Not that it isn't a woman's fault that a man cheats but women don't necessarily help the situation in the sex saturated society.

So why would you think these other behaviors are deviant if there is "no one" hurt physically? It is just sex and there is love between the people (2 or more, men women and possibly children)? When you change the definition it must apply to these others too because you have no grounds for not applying it.

And China quit allowing singles to adopt because homosexual couples lied and the agencies didn't police it. Oh yes they lied. There was a statement of heterosexuality that had to be signed and notarized to adopt. I know I signed it. China said if the agencies won't police themselves we will. So single adoptive parents are no longer allowed to adopt, even celibate singles.

Oh and I will remind everyone again that the blood donation questionnaire forever bans men who have had sex with men along with drug users and those who have shared needles. Tattoos have a 6 month to a year ban and certain countries have a year ban. But forever? The medical community must know something.

Saturday, June 21, 2008

What a Fantabulous Day Even If I Did Miss A Nap

Playing stare down with the kimodo dragon. Good thing there is strong plexiglass between us.





Climbing on the Budda's head. Isn't this how to get the most out of the luck?

G and mom in the photo op.

We met a fellow FCC family who lives sort of close to us for a day at the zoo. Their daughter is 2 1/2 (almost) and is adorable. When I get permission to post I will post pics without names.

We had so much fun because well we always like a good day at the zoo and because this family is just so nice and wonderful.

I am totally exhausted now and I stink to high heaven from the fairly hot and sweaty day we had. I got to let a baby kid bite my fingers then I pet a horse and then I couldn't find any cleaning stuff for my hand. I forgot about not cleaning my hand until after I rubbed my eye. I know ewww!

Well, we went to my fav place to eat and I washed my hands really good but I am still a little worried about my eye. Once in Barcelona I picked up a bad case of pink eye so I am not all happy about the germs I stuck in there!

G fell asleep in the car so I moved her into a rocking chair. Total nap for her just around 45 mins. She woke up and the first words out of her mouth were "I didn't fall asleep." Yeah baby right! Then she said to me, "Why you sittin' in dat chair?" I said, "I just decided to sit here while you were 'resting.'"

Oh and about going to sleep early last night, we made it to bed around 8:45 but like always she didn't fall asleep until well after 9pm. Then she tried to wake me up this morning before the alarm to tell me she wanted to see the crocodiles first.

Tomorrow is Sunday School and church. She cried last Sunday when I dropped her off so I hope she doesn't do that again. Then we are going to my mom's for lunch but mainly a nap.
Oh and go wish Lisa and EmmeLi congrats on becoming a family.

Friday, June 20, 2008

Come On Y'all,

This is scary. It is a pre-meditated plan to fight traditional marriage. It is a documented plan for homosexual activists who claim there is no plan to stop traditional marriage. It is written out now. The activist group can no longer say conservatives are lying about them having an agenda. There has been one all along and now it is in print. The thing is when you define something like marriage so broad it is no longer an entity. Marriage ceases to be marriage if you can call anything marriage. And for those who think the next step won't be polygamy, there are polygamist waiting with baited breath to file suits to be recognized and once the definition is changed there is no legal restraint.

You can talk all day long about how two people should be allowed to marry or love whomever they want but you will have NO legal grounds to stop it from including even the basest of relationships that between more than two people and even including animals and humans. Oh yeah that will happen, and it isn't a scare tactic. If you take an argument away from fact and throw emotion on it you stop the argument. Same thing when you start calling the person with whom you disagree names.

There is a pastor in Canada, Rev. Stephen Boissoin, who has had his freedoms restricted by courts of law and can no longer preach or speak or e-mail or write privately or publicly against homosexual's or even preach strongly in favor of traditional marriage as being one man and one woman because by preaching for that it is against homosexual marriage, for the rest of his life. No joke.

"Ten Facts About Counterfeit Marriage
1. Homosexual marriage degrades a time-honored institution

Homosexual marriage is an empty pretense that lacks the fundamental sexual complementariness of male and female. And like all counterfeits, it cheapens and degrades the real thing. The destructive effects may not be immediately apparent, but the cumulative damage is inescapable. The eminent Harvard sociologist, Pitirim Sorokin, analyzed cultures spanning several thousand years on several continents, and found that virtually no society has ceased to regulate sexuality within marriage as traditionally defined, and survived.


2. Homosexual marriage would radically redefine marriage to include virtually any sexual behavior.

Once marriage is no longer confined to a man and a woman, and the sole criterion becomes the presence of "love" and "mutual commitment," it is impossible to exclude virtually any "relationship" between two or more partners of either sex. To those who scoff at concerns that gay marriage could lead to the acceptance of other harmful and widely-rejected sexual behaviors, it should be pointed out that until very recent times the very suggestion that two women or two men could "marry" would have been greeted with scorn. The movement to redefine marriage has already found full expression in what is variously called "polyfidelity" or "polyamory," which seeks to replace traditional marriage with a bewildering array of sexual combinations among various groups of individuals.

3. Homosexual marriage is not a civil rights issue

Defining marriage as the union of a man and a woman would not deny homosexuals the basic civil rights accorded other citizens. Nowhere in the Bill of Rights or in any legislation proceeding from it are homosexuals excluded from the rights enjoyed by all

citizens--including the right to marry. However, no citizen has the unrestricted right to marry whomever they want. A person cannot marry a child, a close blood relative, two or more spouses, or the husband or wife of another person. Such restrictions are based upon the accumulated wisdom not only of Western civilization but also of societies and cultures around the world for millennia.

4. Upholding traditional marriage is not "discrimination"

Discrimination occurs when someone is unjustly denied some benefit or opportunity. But it must first be demonstrated that such persons deserve to be treated equally regarding the point in question. For example, FAA and airline regulations rightly discriminate regarding who is allowed into the cockpit of an airplane. Those who are not trained pilots have no rightful claim to "discrimination" because they are denied the opportunity to fly an airplane. Similarly, the accumulated wisdom of thousands of years of human history, as expressed in virtually all cultures, has defined marriage as between a man and a woman. Homosexual activists conveniently avoid the question of whether homosexual relationships merit being granted equality with marriage. Although not strictly comparable, radically altering the definition of marriage can also pose dangers to society in much the same way as permitting unqualified individuals to fly airplanes.

5. Any comparison with interracial marriage is phony

Laws against interracial marriage sought to add a requirement to marriage that is not intrinsic to the institution of marriage. Allowing a black man to marry a white woman, or vice versa, does not change the fundamental definition of marriage, which requires a man and a woman. Homosexual marriage, on the other hand, is the radical attempt to discard this most basic requirement for marriage. Those who claim that some churches held interracial marriage to be morally wrong fail to point out that such "moral objection" to interracial marriage stemmed from cultural factors rather than historic and widely-accepted biblical teaching.

6. Homosexual marriage would subject children to unstable home environments

Many homosexuals and their sex partners may sincerely believe they can be good parents. But children are not guinea pigs for grand social experiments in redefining marriage, and should not be placed in settings that are unsuitable for raising children.

· Transient relationships: While a high percentage of married couples remain married for up to 20 years or longer, with many remaining wedded for life, the vast majority of homosexual relationships are short-lived and transitory. This has nothing to do with alleged "societal oppression." A study in the Netherlands , a gay-tolerant nation that has legalized homosexual marriage, found the average duration of a homosexual relationship to be one and a half years.

· Serial promiscuity: Studies indicate that while three-quarters or more of married couples remain faithful to each other, homosexual couples typically engage in a shocking degree of promiscuity. The same Dutch study found that "committed" homosexual couples have an average of eight sexual partners (outside of the relationship) per year. Children should not be placed in unstable households with revolving bedroom doors.

7. Homosexual activists have a political agenda: to radically redefine the institution of marriage

Homosexual activists admit that their goal is not simply to make the definition of marriage more "inclusive," but to remake it in their own hedonistic image. Paula Ettelbrick, former legal director of the Lambda Legal Defense and Education Fund, states, "Being queer means pushing the parameters of sex, sexuality, and family, and ... transforming the very fabric of society." Homosexual writer and activist Michelangelo Signorile rejects monogamy in favor of "a relationship in which the partners have sex on the outside often ... and discuss their outside sex with each other, or share sex partners."

8. If victorious, the homosexual agenda will lead to the persecution of those who object on moral or religious grounds

If homosexual marriage becomes the law of the land, then children in public schools will be taught that homosexuality is a normative lifestyle, and that gay households are just another "variant" style of family. Those who object may find themselves on the wrong side of the law. Unbelievable? This Orwellian situation has occurred in Massachusetts , which legalized homosexual marriage in 2004. In April 2005, David Parker, the parent of a six-year-old boy, protested to the Lexington elementary school after his son was taught about homosexual "families" in his kindergarten class.

At a scheduled meeting at the school, when Parker refused to back down from his request that the school honor the Massachusetts parental notification statute, he was arrested for "trespassing," handcuffed, and put in jail overnight. The next morning Parker was led handcuffed into court for his arraignment, and over the next several months endured two subsequent court appearances before the school district backed down and decided to drop all charges against him. In 2007, Parker's lawsuit against the Lexington school officials was dismissed by a federal judge who refused to uphold his civil rights and to enforce the Massachusetts parental notification statute. Parker's shocking story will become commonplace in a society that forces the acceptance of homosexual marriage as normative.

9. Polls consistently show that the majority of Americans reject same-sex marriage

Public opinion remains firmly opposed to the redefinition of marriage. A May 2008 Gallup Poll asked the question: "Do you think marriages between same-sex couples should or should not be recognized by the law as valid?" Respondents opposed homosexual marriage by a margin of 56 percent (opposed) to 40 percent (agreeing). Respondents to a CNN/Opinion Research Corporation poll in October 2007 rejected same-sex marriage by the same margins.

10. Support for traditional marriage translates into ballot initiatives and laws around the country
Because of strong public support for traditional marriage, same-sex marriage advocates have attempted to circumvent public opinion by redefining marriage through the courts. Despite some victories, such as in Massachusetts and California where the courts have mandated same-sex marriage, there is a strong national movement to protect traditional marriage. A total of 45 states have instituted protections for traditional marriage either through state constitutional amendments or through laws:

26 states prohibit same-sex marriage in their state constitutions.
19 states currently prohibit same-sex marriage through statute only.
In addition, in 2008-9 several more states will be considering ballot initiatives to protect traditional marriage, including Florida and California . Others, such as Indiana and Pennsylvania , will be voting to institute laws defining marriage as between one man and one woman.

Timothy J. Dailey is Senior Fellow for Policy at Family Research Council "

Oh yeah and I know I am opening myself up to some hate comments. Let me warn you now, this is a comment moderated blog. I will respect all opinions no matter if I agree or not and will allow comments that disagree as long as there is no name calling and you don't try to blog on your own in my comment space!! We can respectfully disagree as this particular post is not looking at individuals that you may know who are wonderful and wonderful parents, but a group of well financed activists who have other plans for our society.

Oh Yeah, Smack Down- Mommy Guilt




First some really pretty pics of my girl in her lickets from this morning. It helps to see how cute she is when things like last night happen.

So she gets mad at me last night and honestly I don't remember what I did the first time. So she kicks a pillow off the bed. Then she cries for me to go get it and I tell her "no" and keep reading. So then she escalates and can't hear the story. She asks me to read the page again so I told her I would read it one more time then move on. Well, the it became a battle of the wills. She, still crying, didn't hear the second go round. So she asks, begs really, for me to read it again. I hold firm and there is a stand still. Well, a sit still as I am still and she is jumping and very overly dramatic in her tears and fit. This goes on for 30 mins. We finally get through Sagwa and get her down with the lights off.

Then she starts screaming about not wanting to go to water day today and wanting to stay home with "somebody." So I try to explain that I can't stay home but then I give up and tell her that I will make sure she doesn't get to participate in waterday. Well that sets tears off because she wants to go to waterday until I say okay then she doesn't again. Then she said, sobbing, "Ebry body else's mommy picks dem up early and you don't eber pick me up early." OOOO JAB with a curled knife and pulled back out making huge tears in my heart. I almost cried but wasn't wanting a stopped up nose.

Now you might be impressed that I have kept my cool through all this; except that, I, of course, did not keep my cool since it was 10:31pm or later when this rage/fit started. Oh and she fixates and won't listen. She also refuses to make eye contact, doesn't want to be held.

I think and have always believed that we are somewhere on the RAD continuum, very low though. Even if you lived with us, you would not see it, but that is more a function of her personality being introverted. She doesn't "mother shop," well, anymore, because she has appropriate stranger danger. (Although she did hold a police officer's hand this morning as we were all walking in and dropping kids off together.) But some of the other stuff is there and holding and eye contact is on her terms or not at all, most always.

But the thing is when she rages or gets in fits she is trying to make me do something. It becomes all about control which makes me dig my heals in because once a battle starts I have to win. I think it was a draw last night though. I was so tired I couldn't fight which make me really mad at myself. I told her that as soon as the alarm went off she would be getting out of bed and better be in a good mood. We got less than 6 hours sleep. I am hurting.

So this morning I told her there would be dinner and bed, no playing on the computer, no playing outside, no playing anything. Just dinner then going to bed because of her fit last night. We have a busy day planned tomorrow with a FCC family, and I want no fits!


Yesterday morning as I was climbing out of bed my first thought to motivate me was "Gah, this is Thursday, only 2 more days." By the end of this week it is ugly, I could close my eyes and be out right now. I am exhausted physically and mentally. Hopefully this weekend will refresh us both for the next week where we do it all over again!

Thursday, June 19, 2008

Retro Friday

These are in backwards order and I could change them but am too lazy. The first is my junior year in college. I returned to the college I had attended the first 2 years to go to a sorority funtion. That is one of my little sisters. I was not the best big sis to her and I regret that. She has two cute kids and is married to an opthamologist now or an optometrist (can't remember). They live in the same town as my sister and her kids.




The next is a freshmen or sophomore winter formal. This is Tony (don't remember his last name). He was nice.
I wonder what happened to him and if he still has the mustache? That is the black dress I wore in my sister's wedding. I was made of honor and the marriage failed, hmmm, omen? Just kidding.









My Comment in Response to This Article

And I thought it was so important a comment I posted it twice, heh! You know that was totally by accident!!

"I use "gotcha" and "family" both but that day is totally different than the day my daughter was adopted. That happened the next day. I celebrate every step of it with her. There may come a time when she will realize the loss and pain of all the days, referral anniversary, gotcha/family day, adoption day, coming home day but now I put as much fun into all of them that I can so she will have happy memories of it all. She can change whatever she wants to call it when she is old enough and I will follow her footsteps. There are some adoptees like the commenter's 14 year old who understands it in a totally different light. Could be the age the child was adopted makes the difference and the loss put into more perspective. I mean living in an orphanage without a permanent family for 14 years to get a family probably outweighs the part of loss experienced. I am not discounting adult adoptees by any means but I do think that for the most part adoptive parents have gained awareness enough and if the family/child wishes to keep the gotcha let them live in peace. Let's rename animal adoption instead!!"

Now, I personally don't care what you want to call your special day when ever it was that you met/held your child. It really doesn't matter to me. But it will matter to your child at some point so I recommend following your child's lead with this day when/if your child is old enough to understand.


WOW!


Do you remember this? Well, Tuesday evening the box was on my step. There were 17 CDs. I left 3 with my mom these are the others. I even got the Steve Curtis Chapman CD with Cinderella on it. I am going to save some for my neice for her bday, give one to a friend, share back and forth with my mom and enjoy the rest at work!
Pretty awesome to receive such a blessing in a box!




Wednesday, June 18, 2008

G Conversations

So this turned out to be a not so wordless Wed, but I have to post this before I forget. Remember Ellie in a previous post. She was injured very badly and has now lost her hand. So last night we were in bed, and I was praying, trying not to get frustrated with the stay awake attempts. So in my out loud prayer I pray for Ellie and her hand injury and Ellen (mentioned a while ago) and her cancer to 1) pray for both of them and 2) remind me that not falling asleep is such a minor issue.

But G gets the girls all confused and asked all kinds of questions about how she broke her hand. Anyway, as I was explaining that she does know Ellen who is older than G by 2 months she doesn't know Ellie who is 8.

G in her continued state of questioning and confusion asks me why Ellen is older than her. This age thing is a big deal to G and that is why we will not be adopting a same age child or older than G child when we have the opportunity to adopt. So in her 4 year old reasoning she said, "I guess her nannies yet her mommy come get her faster. And I guess my nannies didn't yet you come to me faster."

I said, "Yes, baby I guess that is why. God had in His perfect time for me to come get you and your nannies needed to be with you longer."


No need to go into the whole birth thing when the loss of a hand threw her little mind into such confusion. Even this morning, her first real comment to me was "mama, why did she broke her arm" (seemingly out of the blue). Poor kid tried to figure it out all night and woke up thinking of it this morning.

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Perspective

Talk about putting this life in perspective.



Wordless Wednesday- Summertime