A long time ago, or within the last 7 years I came across this book. I bought it to save for just the right anniversary, so yesterday I gave it to G yesterday for referral day. We read it last night. G said it was different for her because she wasn't from Zhejiang like the character, Ada, in the book and that Ada had a DAD and a mom not just a mom. Oh and that Ada has a goldfish and we have cats. Have I mentioned that G is literal and relates literally?
I really liked this book. This "Ada" explains all of her names even the one she doesn't remember that was spoken to her heart by her China parents. G really wants to know what that is because she is a literal child and doesn't yet understand allusions or ideas like a lost name given by parents who could no longer parent.
Ada talks about her being a Chinese girl and an American girl and those things are different but make her who she is. Also she talks about noticing how people stare at her when she is out with her family. This book treated some of the big things delicately and openly. I think it is a really good resource for adoptive families.
There is a section of the book that "Ada" shares her personal journal and one of the pages is of things she would like to know or see and most relate to China like meeting the ones who took care of her or seeing the Temple of Heaven etc.
So I asked G if she met her China parents what would she ask them. G is a very private person and it very much shows in her reserve around people. She is also extremely modest even though she is at that age where body parts (everyone's) are so funny and fascinating and she wants to see, talk about, and touch which makes her kind of a cunundrum.
So when I asked her the question about what to ask her first mama, she said she wouldn't be able to talk to them because she doesn't speak Chinese. I told her she would have a translator. Then she took her big 2 ft care bear and laid it on top of her where I couldn't see her face. I have noticed that she hides her face when we talk about her beginnings in China but she shows an excited embarrassment in her voice and expressions.
She asked me what I would say and I told her that I would tell them how sorry I was they were not able to raise her, what a smart girl she is and what a joy it is to be her mom. I would tell them about her growing up here and about her house and life here.
She said she would tell them her favorite color is green because they might think it was red since red is important to China. Then she said she would want to know if there were other children and asked me if I thought her China mom gave her a name. I said she may have or she may have called her "baby." She said she would ask her if she gave her a name.
Then she asked me if I thought she had any brothers or sisters, and I said that we of course don't know but that G could be the oldest or the youngest. She asked if I thought the China mom was a Christian and I said I didn't know but that we would pray that Jesus would find her and bring her to Himself.
Then at some point G got really quiet and I heard her sleeping breath. She had fallen peacefully asleep under that bear.
I had to read the book first to make sure there was nothing that would make me cry while reading it to her. Yes it can be a tear jerker and maybe one day it will register to G that she does have a 3rd name and that only that one person (maybe family) knows it. I told her that God knew it though and He prepared her for this journey in life and that He was and will be always with her.